What to expect in the first month of a Relationship?
There is nothing similar to a new-born relationship. People who have been together for a while say that the first base the best place. Long-term committed people whine that one must cherish this precious moment as your feelings will fade away eventually, so why not make it the best phase of your life – passionate, hot and full of warm since feelings?
First month in a relationship is crucial as both of you are slightly unfamiliar with each other, you still are to find out all of the perks of your partner, you are excited to find out every bit of new information about them, and, most importantly, you are deeply and madly in love. First month of dating also determines whether your partner is diligent, faithful and reliable. It doesn't matter whether you came out of a toxic relationship and are trying to recover, or you are pure and innocent, you need to pay attention to what your new love says in order to save yourself from weird situations and ridiculous mistakes. These are the tips for first month of dating. We will talk about the dangers, riddles and develop a plan you can easily implement throughout your dates. Of course, everything is individual and those tips may not fully apply to your model of a relationship.
If you are a newbie…
This is a short guide for people who have never been in a relationship, or their commitment was not that serious. Don't worry, you will eventually roll in and become familiar with being a good partner. There is nothing to fear and resist. You just want to ask your partner about their boundaries, determine yours and ask them to help you out and guide through this experience. You might feel a little bit awkward and weird, but everything comes with experience.
If you are a broken-hearted person…
Or you have been in a relationship that just ended. Never mind, there is still a low chance you and your ex are good friends. You can be either broken-hearted, bored or bitter. The first rule is not to let those feelings from the past get over you, and don't compare your new boyfriend/girlfriend to your ex. Learn how to trust; keep your head cool and heart warm.
What to beware?
First month in a new relationship can be so overwhelming, so passionate and blinding that we often forget to think straight. This is what people call to be «head over heels in love». Yes, indeed, love is blind, and things that are pretty obvious to everyone around simply cannot be detected because of your silly self. Some things can be pretty scary to your friends, and they will be prompting you to run from this relationship, but you will lie and deceive everyone who will get in a way between you and your new passion. There is nothing bad to be blinded in the first month of relationship, but it will be safer for you if you keep your eyes open, because some things might be pretty annoying later on when you continue dating.
Things to find out in first month of dating
When you are not that committed and still trying to figure each other out, you need to carefully spy out some crucial information that might cause trouble in the future. Remember that the first month of dating is usually the most positive as you feel like your significant other is just flawless.
But that image might be a little bit tricky. Here are the things you have to figure out:
1. What was their status and why their relationships ended? Even if it seems bizarre and unpleasant to hop right in their past and compare yourself to their ex, some things can be pretty damn protruding and vocal when it comes to what they think and say about others. Is your boyfriend and girlfriend finally through with their past? Some people don't even realize that they are doing when they hop into a new relationship after breaking up. You can continue dating only if your new significant other burned all the bridges and are ready to build a new relationship with you. Do they talk a lot of crap about their exes? Don't be so happy there is no competition. You might deal with a usual narcissist who blames everyone, even an innocent person. Are they good friends or just keep distance? This is the best sign for you. It means that your date is a healthy adult who can keep away from drama and appreciate other peoples' boundaries.
2. What is their opinion on commitment? Some people are just not that serious when they date during the first month. You need to find out whether the person has the same outlook as you. This will save you some time before you get attached and open to this human being.
3. What is their material status? To prevent excessive drama and conflicts, sort put the most unpleasant aspect of a relationship first. Does your new date have a good job, a college degree, some money to help you out in case of emergency? Do they make a living? What is their opinion on splitting at the restaurant? What is their thought about who has to be a breadwinner in the family?
4. What is their goal in life? Ask your date what is their all-time dream. You might find a soulmate, or be incompatible in some opinions. Make sure your significant other has a direction and a plan for life, and is ready to maintain productivity without bursting into tears and lying on the couch all day long. You can help them out.
5. What is their opinion on kids? Whoah, that seems too intense for the first month of dating. But you can be indirect and subtle. If you find out your current significant other hates kids, and you were born to be a parent, you might run into some difficulties with that. Sort that question out before it will be too late.
6. Who are their friends? Friends are the reflection of your SO's environment. Are they good people to be around? Are they reliable and can be your buds too? It would be perfect if your date will introduce you to them sooner or later.
7. What are their fetishes? Seriously, you need to estimate how comfortable it will be to do certain things with your date. Maybe you will find some peculiarities confusing or even scary. It is the very time to find out.
Bad signs in first month of dating:
- He or she is inattentive to your needs
- Uses you for sex
- Doesn't want to introduce you to their friends and family
- Doesn't make plans
- Disappears or ignores
- Blames or insults.
First month of dating: what to expect?
What to expect in a first month of a relationship? Good dates, stable attention and fun time together. You can relax and go out as often as you want or as it is comfortable for both of you. You also need to expect sincerity and clearness from your date. You want to build trust as a concrete floor for your future bond. You can become friends, sex partners, soulmates, joke around and just get comfortable around each other.
When you have sex within the first month of dating?
That's a tough question. Everyone has a different opinion on the topic of first sex. The main thing you need to realize is that sex doesn't equal healthy relationships. If you think it will be a catalyst and make a person fall in love with you faster, you are wrong. People should have sex when they feel attached and comfortable without it. But there is no stigma like the first month prudence. Do what you feel is right to do. If you feel passion and urge, don't resist it. Again, talk about the boundaries and make sure you feel comfortable around your new significant other.
First month of dating rules
1.Be attentive. Try to get as much information from your new date as you can collect. Make sure you want to see him or her over and over again.
2. Keep in contact. Dating is a mutual process, so don't be a little princess or a king who expects people to reach first. Show your partner that this relationship is important and valuable for both of you.
3. Give each other time to breath. You might be madly in love, but saving time for yourself can prevent you from getting tired of each other too soon.
4. Talk to their friends. Be sure they like you and you can make a strong bond as a team.
5. Talk about future. It is important to establish some rules and talk about expectations from your significant other. You can start building your bright future when both of you are sure that this mutual work will be fruitful.
6. Be sincere and discrete. Don't hide things from each other. If you feel like you want to share something, it is better to do it right away without keeping some things behind the curtains.
7. Talk about inconvenient things right away. It doesn't mean you need to quarrel, you just want to sort out bad things that make you concerned from the first days. As practice shows, there is nothing worse than keeping silence for months and then bursting out with accusations that might seem ridiculous to your significant other.
8. Talk about sex. Be direct in your desires, establish some do's and dont's. Don't hide your preferences and talk about the way you want to be treated by your date. It would be the best if your sexual overlooks would fully coincide so that you don't need to change preferences or be silent about it.
9. Be supportive. Make sure you show your significant other that he or she is in a good place, ready to be treated with love and interest.
10. Find common hobbies. Do things together. Attend concerts, skater parks, museums, play board games, have fun and be the best friends!